Less desirable trait

I'm sitting here thinking about one aspect of my personality which gets me into trouble at times. It's quite aggravating and perhaps it is a problem at times but it shouldn't ever become a large problem, I wouldn't think. Hmmn.

Anyway, I'm thinking out loud, so to speak, and this may ramble without seeming direction.
I make decisions every day, some minor and some major, both personally and professionally. Some decisions come quickly and some I will deliberate depending on how important I think the need is. I tend to stand behind my decisions so it's necessary to do so.

Considering that I've been making decisions involving myself and others for as long as I can remember, I definitely know I have no hesitation in taking control. If no-one will make a decision, I can and will make one for all and won't hesitate to give them grief for their own lack of decisiveness if they gripe about what I dictate.

However, when it comes to things on a personal level involving myself and friends, I will often defer to others. Don't get me wrong, if I feel strongly about something one way or another, I will voice my own opinion or go my own way. But, when it comes to less than siginficant matters, such as where to eat, what pub to go to, or whatever, I have no problem taking back seat. So, I'm asking myself now why that is.

If I'm on familiar turf, I can assist in a decision. If in strange territory and still feeling my way, I'll defer, as I said, because it seems less taxing and I'm open to new experiences. Now, if I get somewhere I don't enjoy or have a bad experience, I'm becoming more familiar and know to speak my opinion the next time that place is suggested. The same goes if the experience is favorable. Many times I defer simply because I don't feel strongly one way or another and sometimes I just don't have a preference and anything is an option. I think this has a tendency to drive some people to distraction.

Maybe also, it's because I'm thinking that if I don't have a definite preference, it's possible the other person will. If he/she does not voice their own preference, we stall out waiting on one another.

There's another aspect to it all that makes sense to me but does not necessarily transfer to another's understanding. Because I take life too seriously most of the time and because I am forced daily to make decisions, sometimes it's just plain nice to leave lesser matters to someone else. It's nice to not have to make decisions and leave control in someone else's hands. Sometimes it's just nice to lean on someone else every once in a while.

So, put food in front of me and I will eat. Drive somewhere and I will enter and ask to leave if I determine it not to my taste. Or, if all else fails, give me limited options which tells me that your preference is included or that you've eliminated the places you don't want to go and the foods you're not interested in and I'll make my choice from the much preferable smaller list of options. Besides that, learn my preferences and many of the choices will not be questioned anyway.
I think another problem I present is that, instead of giving definite yes or no answers, I'll say something such as, "That sounds good." or, "That will be fine." Maybe the lack of a definite "Yes!" makes my answer seem dubious.

Okay, so another thought came to mind. Perhaps the ones getting aggravated face the same things as I and don't want to make decisions themselves. I'll have to ask that the next time this problem arises.

So, anyway, my problem isn't indecisiveness. I'd say it's more likely acquiescence. Now I'm pondering if that's the correct word for what I'm thinking. Oh well!